Healing within Love

“I need to fully heal before I enter a relationship, to bring the best me into it, to give it the best chance of success.”

That sounds right, doesn’t it? It’s certainly what most of us concentrating on our personal growth are aiming for. Perfection would, indeed, be amazing.

But have you ever met a perfect person, or known someone who didn’t have at least a couple of issues to work on?

Of course not.

And are some of them in truly loving, supportive, enriching relationships?

Yup.

Then it stands to reason that the imperfect-you deserves love, too. In fact, some spiritual systems believe you can only heal some issues through interacting with others—and the deeper the bond, the deeper the healing.

Yet, it’s hard to trust that, isn’t it?

We all feel at least a little unlovable from time to time, especially when we’re in a conscious healing period. It can seem not only impossible but inexcusable to enter into a relationship (romantic or otherwise) when we’re still working on ourselves.

But, you want to keep growing and learning throughout your life, right? And sometimes that learning is actually a healing process.

So, does that mean you can’t love or be loved until you’re “done”? No—because you’d be dead before you loved. And that’s not the point.

The focus of why we’re here, living this imperfect human experience, is to give and receive love. Actually, it goes further than that. We are meant to embody love, to BE it, LIVE it, and let it FLOW through us.

So it makes sense that we can love—and be loved—while we’re still healing. Taken a step further, it’s the interaction and growth within that relationship that could aid the healing along, as mentioned above.

I ran into someone a few days ago I hadn’t seen in years and don’t know very well. But the light in his eyes and warmth radiating from his heart—the things I’d admired most about him decades ago—were unmistakably still present. We hugged and gave gratitude that the shittiness of life hadn’t taken the magic away from either of us. The light in me met the light in him, rather than looking for where personal growth hadn’t arrived yet.

It can be a tough concept to accept, but we truly can heal THROUGH love. Because love is the truth in each of us and where we need to meet. I’d even venture to suggest that a big part of why we’re here is to help heal each other.

So cast aside the “I’m not there yet” of your healing journey and share your love where and when you can. And know that absolutely everyone else is doing the same. That’s what it’s all about.

I can heal within love.

“I need to fully heal before I enter a relationship, to bring the best me into it, to give it the best chance of success.”

That sounds right, doesn’t it? It’s certainly what most of us concentrating on our personal growth are aiming for. Perfection would, indeed, be amazing.

But have you ever met a perfect person, or known someone who didn’t have at least a couple of issues to work on?

Of course not.

And are some of them in truly loving, supportive, enriching relationships?

Yup.

Then it stands to reason that the imperfect you deserves love, too. In fact, some spiritual systems believe you can only heal some issues through interacting with others—and the deeper the bond, the deeper the healing.

Yet, it’s hard to trust that, isn’t it?

We all feel at least a little unlovable from time to time, especially when we’re in a conscious healing period. It can feel not only impossible but inexcusable to enter into a relationship (romantic or otherwise) when we’re still working on ourselves.

But, you want to keep growing and learning throughout your life, right? And sometimes that learning is actually a healing process.

So, does that mean you can’t love or be loved until you’re “done”? No—because you’d be dead before you loved. And that’s not the point.

The focus of why we’re here, living this IMPERFECT human experience is to give and receive love. Actually, it goes further than that. We are meant to embody love, to BE it, LIVE it, and let it FLOW through us.

So it makes sense that we can love—and be loved—while we’re still healing. Taken a step further, it’s the interaction and growth within that relationship that could aid the healing along, as mentioned above.

I ran into someone a few days ago I hadn’t seen in years and don’t know very well. But the light in his eyes and warmth radiating from his heart—the things I’d admired most about him decades ago—were unmistakably still present. We hugged and gave gratitude that the shittiness of life hadn’t taken the magic away from either of us. The light in me met the light in him, rather than looking for where personal growth hadn’t arrived yet.

It can be a tough concept to accept, but we truly can heal THROUGH love. Because love is the truth in each of us and where we need to meet. I’d even venture to suggest that a big part of why we’re here is to help heal each other.

So cast aside the “I’m not there yet” of your healing journey and share your love where and when you can. And know that absolutely everyone else is doing the same. That’s what it’s all about.

Categories: : healing journey, personal growth, relationships, self-love, worthy

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